13 February 2018

5 years but like yesterday.

Recently it was the 5th death anniversary of my son, but it still seems like yesterday that he left forever.  I have been missing him so much, more than usual, his music, his laughter, his poking fun, but most of all his ability to help anyone among those he knew, who he felt needed help, needed boosting, needed advice, or just needed de-stressing.   Not to say I have spent the last 5 years mired in depression.  I and all of us in the family, have gone on with our lives, as though he was still here.  I can imagine his comments & remarks on so many incidents that happen each day. 
My husband & I recently heard, on BBC, a reading from the book 'Trumpet' by Jackie Kay where death does not become an absence but a presence and it just so resonated. 
He was a big Star Wars fan.  Shine in the Force son.

26 January 2018

A weekend post

I have been cat-sitting my daughter's cat Tigger.  It has been fun. 
We had cats when I was growing up, when in Calcutta, for a while, mainly because we were given two Siamese cats who had been spayed and house trained my an expat American couple, when they moved back to the US.  Otherwise, growing up and post my marriage, we have mainly been dog people.  Not to say I dislike cats.  I am not a cat hater.   In fact, as I tell people, I am a mammal person.  I am not averse to trying out any mammal that can be tamed except maybe the big shrew like rats we get here sometimes.  I have looked after a squirrel, sundry dogs, cats, goats and helped in looking after cows.  I am pretty sure I would not mind a monkey, I talk to the mongooses I see occasionally around here!
Anyway it was fun cat -sitting Tigger, who is a most affectionate cat.  The first thing in the morning, when he sees me, (I can't have him sleep with me as I am pretty allergic to cat hair) is to run and then lie flat in front of me for a tummy rub and general stroking.  He's already purring by the time he lies near me.  He then waits for me to get my coffee and sit down, so that he gets more petting. 
I find this quite surprising because most cats don't come asking for petting like the dogs do.  He has 2 stuffed teddys, one of whom he especially loves and it is the greatest fun to see him playing with the teddy, kissing the teddy, rough housing with it and then hugging it.
My dogs are not let inside at all now, since he is in the house, and they are quite jealous, but also interested in this new character.  He sits and watches them from inside the house.  I think he would like to make friends, but they don't seem to take very kindly to that idea.
Anyway, tomorrow we take him back to my duaghter's place.  I will miss him I know.  But then I do have my doggies.


11 January 2018

It is 2018

Happy 2018 to all.

 My 46th wedding anniversary went by recently; my grandson will turn a teenager this year(!!) and it will be five years since my son passed away.  Life moves on inexorably.  There is no point looking back.  Forward is the only way.

I am hoping I can travel this year.  My husband & I have been talking about trips around India for a while.  Hopefully we can do at least a couple this year. 

I do not make new year resolutions, for quite a while now.  After all, the resolve for a change can be anytime.  But here's hoping I can make changes in me for the better this year.

Once more, wishing everyone a good, peaceful, year.

11 December 2017

It is the Christmas season

Though I have made my blog Christmassy, I am still a little like the Grinch.  Maybe it takes me a while to completely get into the festivities. With no kids in the house, there is no urge to decorate.  Anyway, I am listening to as much Christmas music as I can, to help me get into the mood. Hopefully will be done next week
Seasons greetings to you all.


01 November 2017

Last Day

I am going back home and sad at leaving my son and family.

I went for a last walk yesterday.  It was beautifully sunny but cold!  It was a glorious Fall day.
In the evening I got to witness an American Halloween, with all the kids in the neighbourhood out trick or treating in spite of the cold.  Of course, for many their costumes were not visible because of the jackets they were wearing.  It was an interesting experience.  What a lot of candy!!!!

I hope my son and family will visit next year and then maybe we can pay them a visit the year after.  Till then good bye Illinois.

31 October 2017

Fall 2

A few more pictures....

On a clear day you can see forever!




Three stages of Fall together.



Loved the different shades.






Halloween 😊😊